Monday, May 19, 2008

Looking to the future

Well, now that I'm over the past, my thoughts are turning towards just what I want to do with myself in the future. Ignoring all apocalyptic predictions, I want to have some vague outline as to where my life is heading.

I've decided that I want to give dating another shot. I feel that I'm finally in the right mindset to date again. I'm just not sure how I want to go about doing that. After 2 attempts at eHarmony (even despite not being emotionally ready), I'm concluded that it's just not for me. It's too structured, too rigid. Honestly, I would love to not have to go the internet dating route, but it's nearly impossible for me to meet anyone any other way. I spend long days at work. I don't really like bars that much. I DESPISE clubs, and that includes most of the people found in clubs. I don't have a wide group of friends, so the chances of meeting someone through one of my friends are very small. Therefore, online dating seems like the only way to go.

I don't know... Maybe I had to hit my lowest point in order to understand what I really wanted out of life. All I know is that I'm not desperate right now. I'm also not overly concerned with pleasing everyone. I feel like I can finally just go out there and be myself without fearing rejection or ridicule.

Anyway... That's the direction I'm contemplating right now. I'm not really sure I want to dive into online dating right away, but within the next couple of months, I probably will. I think I could have fun this time instead of feeling pressured.

(This was one of the most disjointed blog posts I've ever written... Sorry).

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey Mike, I'm actually going through a similar problem. I've considered internet dating but I don't think that's the way to go. Since you despise clubs, why don't you try taking a night class, participate in some group fitness activities at the gym, going on a vacation for singles, volunteering, speed dating events in larger cities (don't knock it until you try it), etc.? You and I seem like were are in a similar mindset. I've come to the conclusion that I'm putting too much pressure on myself in terms of my career choice and life goals. Instead, I am trying to focus on the real things in life, such as staying close with my friends and family and trying to build new relationships. You seem like a smart guy, don't let it go to waste.

Anonymous said...

Mike,

The long hours do make it tough. Maybe try some kind of aerobics class at a local gym once or twice a week. I think book clubs and cooking classes are great places to start. A book club meets infrequently but you still get chance to meet with new people and see if there are any prospects. I am searching for a cool cooking class to get in on this summer but have not found one yet. I want to improve my cooking and if I make some friends or meet someone that is a nice bonus.

Jeny said...

good for you! i met my boyfriend on myspace and we've been dating for over a year now!

Anonymous said...

which do you think is harder? meeting a special someone like you are trying to do, or make good friends?

Gail said...

There's nothing wrong with internet dating. That's how I met my last three boyfriends, and I'm about to get engaged. Honestly, the few times I've ever been in a club, I froze up the second a strange man started talking to me.

Pharmacy Kid aka Manu said...

Grocery stores from 5-6pm. Trust me. That's where all the single women go to buy food for dinner. Don't let them eat by themselves at home . . . good luck.

Anonymous said...

awww someone as witty and funny as should have no problem, my pharmacist flirts with me : ) I guess that because I never come in for any sort of medicine for some nasty STD.