"He's so cute."
"He's so nice."
I have a swarm of customers (older female ones of course) that say these things to me and about me constantly. At first, it was really flattering and made me feel good. I try really hard to be helpful and as good a pharmacist as I can be to my customers. However, as I enter my late-20's, I think I might be getting a little old for "cute."
You see... They don't call me cute in the way, they'd call Brad Pitt cute. They call me cute in the way they'd call a 10-year old cute. They look at me like a big kid playing pharmacist. I seem so young and innocent to most of these customers. I go out of my way to explain things to them or help them find things in the OTC aisle. I'm ultra polite and brush away compliments with an embarrassed, blushing smile. Like I said... I come across as a little kid playing dress up. Thus, I get all these, "Oh, he's so cute."
I don't look young for my age. I have more than a few grey hairs and very noticeable wrinkles around my eyes. I guess it's just the way I present myself that makes me seem like I'm younger than my age. For whatever reason, instead of coming across as a mature, confident man, I exude the persona of a bashful, eager to please kid.
Perhaps that's my problem with women. I'm nice, and I can be funny (usually in a dark, sarcastic way). I'm not grotesquely unattractive. I have a good job, and I act very responsibly. However, in the end, I come across as someone that needs to be taken care of instead of someone who will take care of others. Basically, women want their kids to be like me, but not their husbands or boyfriends.
I guess it's hard to explain to people that have never met me. That's how I really feel though. It's like I'm a kid who one day woke up as an adult in an adult world. I don't know how else to describe it.